Self-Talk And Selflove As Healing Power
When I first got my tinnitus I got really depressed. I made it even worse by bringing myself down.
Telling myself that I and my body were stupid. I hated my body. I hated my life. I hated everything. There was just pure hate. For everything. I was so mad at my body and at my mind.
Hate became a big part of my life. Not just towards myself. No, also towards others. My life became dark and hateful. Which brought me down more and more.
I don´t think there was a day I didn´t cry and wish to die.
But how could you heal or accept a current state when you hate your body. When you hate your life?!
You need to work with your body and mind together! You are one person in one body and everything affects each other. So negative thoughts won´t lead to positive results.
So, you are looking for healing, a cure or relief . . . then you need to start with your thoughts. Start loving yourself what you are right now.
It wasn´t easy for me. I didn´t just wake up one day and think differently.
It took me a great deal of time to realise that a big part of my problem was me. Slowly but surely I wanted to find a way out, I was tired of living that way. I wanted to do more again than feel sorry for myself and hate the whole world. I wanted to be happy again. I wanted to live again.
I started looking for answers and soon I found out that the holistic medicine talks about including everything in healing and that healing is easier when being positive.
Then I realised finally how negative I had become.
But how to become more positive again?
The mind believes everything you tell it as true. Just tell yourself the same thing over and over again and you will believe it. It will become your truth.
So I started with mirror work and positive affirmations to feel better about myself again.
I used different positive affirmations in order to change my thinking. The ones that spoke most to me, were the ones by Lousie Hay.
An affirmation opens the door. It’s a beginning point on the path to change. In essence, you’re saying to your subconscious mind: “I am taking responsibility. I am aware that there is something I can do to change.” When I talk about doing affirmations, I mean consciously choosing words that will either help eliminate something from your life or help create something new in your life. – Louise Hay
In the begining I wrote a few affirmations down and read them to myself in the morning. Then I got a few audios and now I listen to them when I´m on the bus or when ever I have time or feel like it.
If you think you are not one for affirmations – read here how I got started; https://thetinnituslife.com/2017/09/22/you-can-influence-your-tinnitus-with-your-mind/
Affirmations really work.
Telling yourself things over and over again makes it true for you, but only if you don´t think the exact opposite the rest of the time.
So, observe yout thoughts. What are you thinking most of the time? Are the thoughts productive or distructive? Are they bringing you down and are the mostly negative?
Firstly, don´t get affraid of how negative your thinkning might be. And try to substitude your negative thoughts with positive ones.
If you do all that, you´ll see that your thinking will become more positive. If your thiking becomes more positive it will be easier for you to talk to yourself generally more positive.
You won´t feel punished by life anymore and you won´t feel as much disgust and hate towards your illness anymore NOR towards yourself.
Things in life will seem like they are more positive again and everything will feel lighter.
“In each case the better a patient’s expectations about how they would do after surgery or some health procedure, the better they did,” said author Donald Cole, of the Institute for Work and Health in Toronto.
Now what else is missing for your healing journey?
Once you are more positive again, it will be a lot easier to love yourself again. But every single negative thought about yourself and about your body influnces you.
For that mirror work is the perfect way.
And it is not that I´m totally in love with myself . . . I had to drag myself in fron tof the mirror and tell myself that I love myself, that I´m great. And that did not come out naturally. I had to force it. Now it is easier and over time it is almost true every day.
Mirror work has to do with looking at yourself. Being able to stand to look at yourself without critizising yourself and without looking at your flaws. Just looking at yourself and seeing good things. Being ok with yourself and loving yourself.
I for one did not. And sometimes still don´t. But the same as with the affirmations, what you tell yourself becomes true for you.
So stand in front of the mirror and just tell yourself what you love about yourself and about your body. Over and over again. It does not have to be the truth at that moment, but it will be later on. The more you look in the mirror telling yourself how great you are and how much you love yourself. The more you will love yourself.
Try everytime when you walk by a mirror to tell yourself that you love yourself.
And also hug yourself to give yourself some love. So that you can feel your love for youself. That way you can appreciate yourself for what you are doing and for how strong you are living with a chronic disease.
And you will see, with every pasing you day you will feel better about yourself and hardly talk to yourself in a bad way.
Now the ground work is set to heal. A positive mind will help you to believe in change and believe in curing yourself. Your whole body will feel the change and react.
You will already feel better and life will feel differntly. You will have different experience and attract differnt people.
Get ready for a big change.
“You can’t blame people for their diseases,” Snyderman (ABCNEWS’ Medical Correspondent Dr. Nancy Snyderman) says. “But how you go through your life with the grit and determination to make it through, that you do have control over and that makes a difference.”
Read more here about Positive Thinking, Faster Recovery here: https://thetinnituslife.com/2017/09/22/you-can-influence-your-tinnitus-with-your-mind/
Read more about Louise Hay here: https://www.louisehay.com/the-power-of-affirmations/